The Second Puberty: Why Midlife Feels Like Starting Over (and How to Own It)
Do you ever feel like your body is playing tricks on you? One moment you’re fine, the next you’re sweating through your clothes, snapping at your partner, or staring at yourself in the mirror wondering, “Who is this woman?”
It’s not just you. Midlife really can feel like a second puberty.
When we were teenagers, hormones ran the show, we experienced mood swings, skin breakouts, and wild energy highs and lows. Now, decades later, many of us are back on a similar rollercoaster, only this time with more responsibilities and less sleep. For some of us, we are also competing with our teenagers’ hormonal changes!!
Why does this happen?
As estrogen and progesterone (our main hormones) begin to fluctuate, your body shifts gears. Some days it’s as if the volume is turned up to full blast, where you experience hot flashes, brain fog, anxiety, to mention a few. Other days, you feel surprisingly balanced.
It’s messy, unpredictable, and very real.
Here’s the reframe nobody talks about:
This isn’t just about endings. It’s about beginnings.
This “second puberty” is a reset button. Just like adolescence launched us into adulthood, midlife can launch us into a brand-new chapter.
Instead of asking, “What am I losing?” try asking, “What am I ready to gain?”
- Maybe it’s energy for the passions you’ve put on hold.
- Maybe it’s clarity about what you’ll no longer tolerate.
- Maybe it’s confidence to rewrite your story on your terms.
A small step you can try today:
Grab a notebook and answer this question:
👉What part of me is waiting to be rediscovered in this season of life?
Sometimes clarity starts with one honest sentence.
And if you feel like you want a roadmap through this “second puberty,” that’s exactly why I created my signature program, a space designed to help women like us move through midlife with tools, confidence, and support. You don’t have to navigate this alone.